Life As I Dream It

Live the Life You Want! September 21 2014, 0 Comments

Have you ever been a part of an experience so amazing that weeks later it’s still resonating with you and you can’t help but replay in your mind moments of that experience over and over again? That’s my life at the current moment. Two weeks after participating in Oprah’s The Life You Want Weekend. I’m still on cloud nine because it was just that “O”mazing!

I decided to meet up with some colleagues and add to the already amplified girl power. There were women from all walks of life in and around Philips Arena, the CNN Center, Centennial Park and the newly constructed O-Town. These women were networking, connecting, laughing, and had come together for a single cause- to get something. Those something’s ranged from the extra boost to take a business to the next level, to seeing purpose, to seeking to be filled spiritually and emotionally.  It seemed that there were more women seeking the latter however, out of the 15K plus in attendance I don’t doubt that everyone in attendance left with something GOOD and endearing even if it’s not what they came to get.




There were so many wisdom nuggets that I filled several pages front and back while uncovering more truths about me. I wear so many hats that sometimes life gets to be quite overwhelming. A few of these hats came from trying to please everybody and not saying no even when I was stretched thin. Mother O reminded me that I can say no and still leave the relationship/friendship intact. Every cause isn’t important to me so I don’t have to co-sign and support.

Failure will happen and it’s ok. It’s the lessons learned and forward movement that soothes the sting.

Support is critical. Continue to align myself with people who see the same vision as myself, who will not only encourage me but go as hard when I don't even ask.

Haters will take care of themselves. The energy that they give off is like a swinging pendulum. It’s going to come back at them, because as Newton’s third law states- for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.

Never put myself in a situation where I'm someone else’s pawn, especially on my own turf.

I lost my notes, laughed, cried, and met some amazing women. I left feeling uber empowered and ready for my next. Seeing a little black girl from Mississippi, born with all odds against her, not without obstacles, grow to become a media power broker was inspiring. Many have criticized that she doesn’t give God enough credit. Well Mother O not only acknowledged God as the source but took us to church a few times. She’s so human!

I guess I wrote all this to say it's NEVER too late to live your best life, to not be defined by your past, but truly and fully be- HAPPY, HEALTHY, and WHOLE

In closing she recited the following poem. I hung on to every word and savored the last line. I repeat it daily…Sit. Feast on Life and I pray you will do the same. Sit. Feast on Life.


Love After Love
The time will come
when, with elation
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door, in your own mirror
and each will smile at the other's welcome,

and say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was yourself.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you

all your life, whom you ignored
for another, who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,

the photographs, the desperate notes,
peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life.
~Derek Walcott

Are you Daring to Be? June 12 2014, 1 Comment

I’m definitely not a life/lifestyle coach or a motivational speaker however; I understand the power of actions and words. Simple actions and choice of words can change a person’s demeanor in a split second. Actions and words can bring a person who's on the cusp of destruction back to a safe place. I work daily at being a beacon of light and hope. If my light should cross your path via social media, email, text, and/or phone, I definitely want it to be warm and embracing. Dare to Be was established as an empowerment brand and I’m thrilled to see women wearing the gloss, looking good, feeling good, and making bold statements about their lives! Take a look for yourself.


Goody Howard is quite the master hat wearer or in her words “aspiring superhero”. She’s a wife, mother, Intimacy Consultant, sex educator and HIV/AIDS activist. She Dares to Be because "simply BEING is an understated luxury and daring not to be is not an option!" Learn more about Goody at Ask Goody and


All about her girls is Alicia McCray- Harper’s (wife and mother of two) motto. She currently is employed in the healthcare industry as an Admissions Representative. She has goals and dreams and believes she can be anything she chooses to be and says so can YOU! She Dares to Be a woman of confidence and high aspirations.


“I Dare to Be different because being ordinary is boring and that simply isn't me,” says Courtney also known as @Sweet1911. This mother and Admission Representative is boldly and fearlessly living life on her terms.

Dare to Dream...BIG January 31 2014, 0 Comments

What happens to a dream deferred was the question posed by the great Langston Hughes. Does it dry up? Does it fester like a sore? Does it stink like rotten meat? Does it simply explode? He illustrated beautifully yet painfully what happens to the dreams of many who fail to actualize their full potential; those who are too afraid to go boldly where some may have or have not gone. 
From the time we are very little our dreams, hopes, and aspirations are either shaped by our environment or drawn from something deep inside. Those that come from deep inside are what I believe to be natural gifts and talents that we nurture until they are perfected. Let’s say the child prodigy-musician, Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart, chess player, or artist Pablo Picasso. All these people were brilliant beyond their years. Yet they dared to dream big.
I am a natural born dreamer and doer. However, I learned that dreams can only come true if you take deliberate and consistent actions to achieve what you have set out to do. After all a dream is merely a thought or image of us being somewhere doing some thing. In most cases those thoughts are grandiose, bigger than we could fathom as being our reality someday. Often times we let life- career, family, and stuff keep us stuck in a place and before we know it life has passed us by only to die with all that God has given us still locked inside.
So I say to you- the person who is reading this- Dare to Dream but only for a while. I challenge you to be bold in doing and turn your BIG dreams into a BIG reality!